Confessions of “the Other Woman”

The term “the other woman“, aside from its literal meaning, is usually coined in relationships as the third party, the mistress, the husband/boyfriend stealer, the relationship wrecker, etc… In other words, it’s a bad deal being referred to as one.

Sometimes though, I do feel like being the other woman. That maybe if I have a strong personality and a guy worth pursuing, I may be up to the adventure. Haha. But unfortunately not. I’m the dreamer/ hoper type, that one day the one meant for you will come across your way… What’s with bringing up this topic? As I’ve said, sometimes I feel like being the other woman. But not the active type, maybe the passive/ discreet type. Hehe. Yeah? In college, of the 7 guys in class, I was “linked” to 5 of them at least. I just remembered some sweet instances before that connects me with guys who are in a relationship. During those times I just thought to myself, “Why do they have to be taken?” or “If they were single, is it possible for ‘us’ to happen?” Hmmm…

Instance 1: I’ll name him El. He was a classmate and is my first ever crush in college. He was single till 2nd year when he met this girl. They are inseparable and going strong since then. But since he and his girlfriend were not of the same course, they are not always together. And me and El are close friends. And he really is sweet. Even to our other girl friends. But we usually are more often times teased together with me being tagged as “the other woman” nga. He had even kissed me several times in the head and in the cheeks. Held hands for like 2 minutes? Haha. Ahh… How sweet. He even confessed to me I was also his crush sometime, I don’t know if that was true. Some friends also noticed some “special attention” he was giving to me during review days. Anyways. I missed those days. Haha.

Instance 2: I’ll call him Dee. Also a classmate. We were also teased to each other before, way before he had his girlfriend. We were close but unlike El, we were not that sweet to each other. One time during my internship, he was also in the same clinic at school as I am, as that time he was assigned there for a practical exam. When he was about to leave (I remembered we were the only ones left in the room), he kissed me in the cheeks. But then me being “the other woman” was still not applicable at this time as he was still single but is already seeing someone. I just saw him earlier today went I visited our school and we had a nice big tight hug.

Instance 3: The high school love team. Let’s refer to him as Jayce. He was romantically linked to me in high school, he even tried courting me then (i think) but for some reason he disappeared. We never had gotten close since then as there was an awkward air if we were to be together. Years after high school, we got each other’s cellphone number through a friend and were constant text mates since then. There was this one time when he asked me advice regarding his troubled love life then. He even promised to take me to Boracay, only the 2 of us (all expense paid by him), the time he graduates and is earning money. I still have the text message from him saved in my cell phone. Up until now I was wondering if this promise would materialize in the future. Now that he currently is in a relationship. Hay.

Instance 4: Let’s refer to him as J-P. He is also a classmate and had gotten close to him during thesis days. We’ve bonded so much during our subject hunting as we are traversing the whole Metro, hospital hopping etc. We even bonded to the point of back fighting some one. Haha. I just missed the days when we were maniacally laughing our hearts out, out of exhaustion and thesis pressure. Like being positive despite the downfalls we are facing. Some amazing friendship was developed. We were even tagged as a love team and pseudo-bf/gf by classmates. Haha. But he is in a wonderful relationship and had even shared to me his plans of getting married someday to this girl. Up until now I wasn’t admitting to myself that I liked him somehow, I was just amazed of how great of a person he is. And that’s one very lucky girl to have him.

I just happened to think about these things sometime and was really asking “Why am I being placed in such situations as this?”. Sometimes, I was jokingly thinking, “Maybe I’m such a really charming person, and some “taken” guy magnet. It was annoying to think that if I could develop some sweet moments with “guys in a relationship”, why not with a single person na lang who is free of any commitment, such that any connection with us will be valid and will not be considered as a “third party”?. That if “guys in relationship” find me as something, hopefully, someday, or in the near future, some single guy will find me that as well and will be the start of a valid, happy relationship….